Obituary

“Mervin led a happy life. He held a high regard to duty, but would rather play above anything else. Commonly coined as 'lazy', but when it came time to put in the work, he would finish his tasks to his full ability, at least when it really mattered to him. God blessed him with talents in the areas of academics, music, and athletics. After high school, he was determined to become a dentist, and in 2017 graduated from the Loma Linda University School of Dentistry. He was an avid member of the band, chorale, and jazz band during his high school years, and continued his love for music by performing for churches and other small functions. While in high school, Mervin played volleyball and basketball, and competed competitively in Tae Kwon Do. As a dentist, Mervin traveled the world as a missionary, using his skills in whatever corners of the world he could touch. He is an individual who will truly be missed.”
When I talked to my parents about their retirement plans and how they want to be cared for, they told me that they would try to live on their own for as long as possible, then when they can no longer take care of themselves, they were hoping that they could live with me. This is the arrangement I prefer because I do not trust other people enough to care for my parents. I am fully confident that I could do a job just as good or better than any nursing home could ever provide. I just hope that my parents will get a long with my spouse and do not try to run our lives. That was my only request to my mom and dad when they asked if they could live with me in the future. Besides, I have heard terrible stories of people in nursing homes getting beaten and being mistreated, and my parents have been too good to me to deserve that. My parents are actually in the middle of planning their funerals. They have already got their locations in the graveyard figured out, but they still have not picked out their coffins. Both of them are planning for burial because I told them that I did not want them to get cremated. I could not stand the idea of keeping my parents remains in a little jar. My dad just got the software to plan out his will, but that is in progress and has not been finalized yet, and it probably will not be for a while.